What is it with INTJ and ESFP?
First, to dispel a myth — ESFP is not the opposite of INTJ; it’s the “inverse” or “complement” of INTJ. This is because they share the same top four preferred cognitive processes. (The true “opposite” of INTJ is ENTP!)
It seems that INTJ and ESFP are often attracted to each other and many wonder why. Let’s look at the Cognitive Process mappings of each, along with the archetypes (positive aspect; negative aspect) representing each Cognitive Process:
Ni Se Leading; Dominating
Te Fi Supporting; Overprotective
Fi Te Relief; Unsettling
Se Ni Aspirational; Projective
Ne Si Backup; Opposing
Ti Fe Discovery; Critical
Fe Ti Comedic; Deceiving
Si Ne Transformative; Devilish
So in the case of an INTJ interacting with an ESFP, there’s mutual admiration for each other’s “Leading” Cognitive Process, since it represents the “Aspirational” of the other. However, problems can occur if the Leading Cognitive Process becomes too “Dominating” and/or the aspirational Cognitive Process begins to become “Projective”.
The second Cognitive Process of each is “Supporting” and offers “Relief” for the other, but could become problematic if the supporting role becomes “Overprotective”, leading to an “Unsettling” reaction in the other.
Both INTJ and ESFP have common blind spots when using Ne, Ti, Fe and Si. Since these four Cognitive Processes are all in the shadow of both, real problems can occur when circumstances force their use, since neither type prefers them.